Self-Sufficient

A very short conversation between Mum and Me :

Mum : So, you've got a macha for yourself already??

Me : Nope

Mum : There should be someone. Right??

Me : Nope. None.

Mum : We'll see. Soon.

Me (annoyed) : Yeah, sure!

Mum : Already 26. How long do you plan to be single??

Me : For as long as I want and as long as I can. Thank you. *Walk away*

Provoked once again. On the lamest issue of all. What is wrong with everyone?? What is so vital about getting married?? As for me, the sole purpose of marriage is for free sex to continue the generation, adding up on the human population. I've never thought marriage was such a great thing. And NO! Just in case if you're wondering, I'm NOT from a broken family to be against the whole marriage issue. In fact, my parents are happily married for 30 years and still counting. Being in their shoes, I don't blame them for bugging me to get attached. BUT THEN AGAIN... no thanks.

What is so wrong about being self -sufficient?? I have been criticized of being afraid of commitments and failing in it. I was once told that I'll end up being a bitter old woman just because I'm too self-sufficient. One of my trainee even asked whether I am a lesbian. *WTF* I don't see why people have to make such a big fuss over me being self -sufficient. Of course, I'm not denying the fact that sometimes it does get lonely to the bone. But that doesn't mean marriage is the only solution.

I've known people who've gotten married for the wrong reasons. Be it fear of ending up alone for the rest of their life, to avoid having children at later age and marrying the wrong person just because they believe that's the best they can ever find even though the partner is such an asshole. I choose not to add myself into that statistics. No thank you.

It's easy to say "Get one!" or "Start hunting". It's not like I can just go to the departmental store, point to a particular man and tell the sales girl,"Please pack him for me." It doesn't work that way. To become attached with a person, you have to have some common interest. You gotta at least have the same frequency to get it going. It will never work otherwise. Don't give me crappy statements like "Opposites attracts" - physically maybe YES but otherwise- Hell No!

It doesn't bother me that I might end up all alone by myself as I have got the education, a job, my own ride, my collection of books. I'm just yet to get a place of my own and when I do, I'm settled for good. You see, I may just need a companion. Definitely not a husband. I would rather have a pet,which will fill the missing companion. The last thing that I ever need would be a husband or even a pest in the name of a boyfriend. No thanks to that.

I'm comfortable with the life I have now, with no strings attached. I'm not planning to change it except for the part that I would love to live on my own rather than living with my parents. I would have more space on my own that way. In fact, being single is definitely not being selfish. It's all about setting your priorities right and in this case, I'm putting myself first, exactly how it should be.

For all you buggers, QUIT. Seriously. Instead of bugging me to get married or get attached, spend your time on growing plants or something. It might do the world a big favour. Thank you.