Solve, Not Dwell

*Inspired by Valerie Christine*

You have a problem?? Solve it. Don't dwell in it, kept talking and complaining because it's gonna make things worse and you gonna end up being more miserable. Of course, talking out your problems to someone does lighten the burden up your chest but dwelling in it doesn't help in any way.

Going "My life suck", "I hate my life" and the most propular "WHY ME???" is NEVER EVER gonna help in any way but to make you wonder for the next dinosaur's years. Why bother wondering when you're not gonna get the answer at all??

Who doesn't have a problem?? EVERYONE DOES! It's all about how you deal and settle it. Doesn't matter how big or serious the problem is, how you overcome and make through it is what matters most.

I'm not denying the time factor. Of course, certain issues/problems requires time - loads of them to be solved or even to get over with. But if you're not willing to even take the very first step, you would not be able to solve the problem even if you've been given dinosaur's years.

Just because you are feeling stress or tensed, DON'T involve yourself in any immoral activities or bad habits such as smoking, alcohol consumption, drugs etc. Obviously, it's gonna make things worse. You're gonna sink way deeper than you thought you would. "Release tension" is what we normally hear from the smokers. It's just a LAME EXCUSE. There's so many other ways to release tension - take up sports, leisure activities, anything but none of the things that deteriorate your health or so.

I look up to those whom solve their problems in a very smart way rather than dwelling in it. Though in the beginning you might have complained, cried and dwelled in it, it's a good thing that now you have realised it has never done good to you. It may take time, dinosaur's years perhaps but heck, you've already took the first step so things will definitely smoothen up and it will be a lot more easier for you.

Sooner or later, you will think back and say "Geee...I was that young and stupid". It's not about regretting what you did, It's all about the lesson that you learn from it.

** Dearest Val, I'm so glad that things are turning quite well for you. And I'm really proud that you SOLVED IT rather than DWELLING in it. **