I can't help but ponder why there are so many single ladies out there. And these women are pretty successful with their career and could practically afford to have almost anything but they are SINGLE.
*Now you single ladies, don't give me that look. I'm not saying it is a disgrace to be single. HELL NO!!
I could only think of these as to why there are many single women out there.
*This is my personal point of view*
1) The Past
Oh well, we women always seem to carry the past with us for the rest of our lives. Yes, the past is supposed to remind and teach us about the pain and the torment we went through in our previous relationships but it should not be a barricade for one to explore into a new one. It should be a lesson to be learned, not something that stops you from falling in love again. Think about it!
2) Stereotyping
So what if you had your little heart broken by that asshole boyfriend of yours from high school? Screw him! Don't go stereotyping all the men just because a handfuls are rotten. Honestly, those high school courtship may not even come close to LOVE anyway. NOT ALL men are assholes. Like seriously.
3) Expectations
We women just want a guy like our dads. Ladies, Don't even deny this. Dads are probably the only man- kind whom treats us preciously. Perhaps. But honestly, that is not the right expectation to have. If all men were to be like our dad, it doesn't make him all special anymore, isn't it? He would be just an ordinary man. All men would be ordinary. And trust me when I say, no men would come this close to our dads. Our dads are just the best among them. No doubts! So, just stop looking for another 'dad figure' in your man. It will only dissapoint you.
4) The responsibilities
Some of us have our responsibilities towards the family or extended families. But that should not be an excuse for you to not date anyone. Do not make excuses and totally refrain yourself from dating. That is totally wrong. And if you expect help from the man, that is not quite right as well. If one decides to help, it should be done sincerely. Not because he is obliged to do so.
5) Being a bitch
Well, literally, yeah. Just stop being one. Simply because it is not gonna bring you to the right one. You will end up being exploited. You will lose your self respect and dignity. And the men will only see you as 'that bitch?!' instead of 'that woman'. That's a whole lot of difference isn't it?
6) Holding Grudges
Holding grudges over love is ancient artifacts, says Travie McCoy. If your relationship did not work out, move on. There really is no point of holding grudges. It's only going to make you bitter. I bet many of you women out there still bad mouth your exes. Oh, come on! Get a grip! MOVE ON!
Well, I would say, being single in the late 20s or more is not easy. Especially when almost every friend you have is getting married or engaged and your parents kept asking every now and then whether you are seeing anyone. I truly realized that I have been inhibiting myself from relationships due to some of the factors above. And I know it is not right! Yes, not all men are rotten and one should not stereotype the others.
To all of my men, thank you for being you. Thank you for all the lessons, for that, I am the woman I am today. Being the awesome person that you are, you are very close to my heart. ♡♡♡
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