Till It's Gone

Been attending funerals every now and then since last month. Everyone's dying. That's pretty (VERY) scary!! Leela's dad passed away on 29th May. My neighbour passed away 2 weeks ago. A relative of mine passed away last week. A family friend passed away today. As the saying goes, "You won't know what you had till it's gone", I truly believe people came up with such thing because of the reality of it. It reflects how much we take people or things for granted, not appreciating and totally ignoring their presence.

I felt so shattered by the passing of Leela's dad. It was so sudden and totally unexpected. I bet that's what death is all about. It was very devastating for me to picture myself in Leela's position. I felt the fear of losing the ones that I love. It scares me more when my Mum goes "We're getting old" and Dad replies,"Don't worry about getting old. Think about how long we'll be alive" =(

When MJ died, people started to say good things about him. How a legend he is and all that. When he was alive, he was accused on so many issues and talked bad about. A lot of people loathe him. I'm not denying the fact that he was a troubled man but, such clear hypocrisy can be seen. You talk bad about a person one moment and the next moment, you turn into all angel. We never tend to appreciate everyone around us. We take them for granted until they're gone and then we realise it's been too late.

I'm not saying we have to fake ourselves and be all too nice towards people. I'm just asking why is it only when a person is dead, we tend to realise their contributions and values in our lives. Is it because the person is no more to contribute anything? Or is it because you really feel that the person has impacted your life in many ways and it was just too late for you to realise it??

We make fun of people's death just because we don't know them in person. Once it involves our family members or anyone we knew personally, it becomes a serious issue. How ignorant can we be?? The dead person can be someone's mom, dad or even a friend. A close friend of mine laughed at the passing of her very own uncle, just because she wasn't really attached to him. In fact, she even made fun of the way he died and I remember screwing her up for being so mean. When her very own dad died, it was a total different emotion. She was very upset and all(Of course, it was her father who died) but why would you make fun of someone's death?? This, is a very simple example of how people take death of others for fun until it hits them rite back!

Too many things to think about. Why regret not appreciating a person so close to your heart when he/she is still alive?? Treat them well now itself. At least try your level best to treat them right. Appreciate. Confess your love. Tell them how much you respect/adore them. At the end of the day,it's the thought that counts...

How Rude Are You?

How many of us actually think we are rude?? Most of us (80%), according to a survey, claim that we are not rude at all. But, do you know that 90% of people are actually rude?? Maybe we just don't realise that we are being rude at that point of time. There are two type of rudeness :

a)Focused - where we are being rude on purpose
b)Unfocused - where we don't realise we are being rude, which is not on purpose.

Many of our daily acts are considered rude. It may not seem to be rude for us but it is for some people. I do admit that I'm extremely rude at times but somehow I find these acts rude.

1. Burping on people's face without even saying "Excuse Me"
2. Clipping finger nails in public (Eewww Disgusting!!)
   
3. Whistle to call a waiter/waitress
4. Smoking in public even when you know the person next to you is suffocating
   
5. Cutting lanes in traffic without giving a signal (.l.)
   
6. To talk in a language that the third person could not understand in a conversation - I get the point that you don't want the third person to know what you're talking about, but heck, it's simply RUDE!!
   
7. To let your kids run around a restaurant and scream their lungs off (It's not only rude, but it's farqing annoying)
8. Stealing a parking lot when you know there's another person waiting to park on that lot
9. Taking your own sweet time to get your car out of parking lot when you know there's another car waiting to park on that lot
   
10. Cutting queues - Just wait for your damn turn will you??
    
11. Using the handphone to chat/sms when you're having a serious conversation, face to face with someone
    
12. Talking on the phone while you're on the cashier counter, without bothering the cashier and the others waiting in line
13. Walking while people are sweeping or mopping the floor(All I feel like doing is hitting you with the broom/mop stick)
    
14. Standing in the midway while two person is having a conversation
15. When you want a person to do something for you, NEVER raise up your voice.

There might be more. Just cant seem to think much. A short post after a long time. Inspired by Oprah Winfrey Show.