I was driving when I heard the advertisement on the radio based on "1 Malaysia" concept. A very good approach I would say. The advertisement some sort said "Don't judge others as you wouldn't want others to judge you." But then again, it got me thinking, do we ever stop judging others? Somehow, the advertisement just didn't reach it's goal. All of us judge others based on first impression, be it the way they dress, talk, eat or even the way they stand still. And yet, we put up a front and say "Don't judge others."
When you see a female on the bigger size wearing tight skimpy clothes, you tend to just stare at her to the extend your eyeballs were popping out of the socket. Then you go, "Check out the Michelin mascot! She needs a mirror!" I won't deny the fact that I've had thought such things before. But, to think of it, it all actually comes to the self confidence and the acceptance of the person itself. She is just being comfortable and confident in those clothes. Just because you are not comfortable in such clothes, doesn't mean others should feel the same way too.
When you see a person with a stern frowning face, you tend to judge the person as a snob when the truth is the person is just born with it and can't afford major reconstruction on that very face. You can't just judge a person merely by physical appearance. Facial expression is totally a different thing. They have so much of messages to convey. In the end, u don't have a choice but to judge it yourself. Somehow or rather, judging takes place here. That doesn't mean it gives you the right to judge the personality of that particular person. Some people are just comfortable being on their own rather than being all hyped up in a crowd.
When a person speaks his mind and it turned out to be a nasty remark, you label him as "rude". This happens out of frustration of being belittled in front of others. You'll hate him for life due to that. On the other hand, how many of us actually speak our mind?? It's either we lie or just pretend to be happy with what ever the other party does. It's all because the person wouldn't accept the nasty remark you're about to make and of course, it's because you wouldn't want to be labeled as "rude" and end up being all alone for the rest of your life just because you are being true to yourself. I have only one thing to say, YOU CAN'T PLEASE EVERYONE. If at all there is anyone you should please, it should be your own self.
As a conclusion, we are always in denial. We will never accept people for being who they are. We can never accept the fact that we are being judged and we will never stop judging others. In the end, "acceptance" is just a random word in dictionary which we will never put into practice.
